How to achieve peace in life?

Nothing can bring you Peace but yourself!!

Having peace in mind and heart doesn’t mean there is no noise, no anger, no hurt, it simply means to have all these but still manage to get away with these emotions when it’s no longer needed to hold on. Holding on things doesn’t help at all. The only way to help yourself is to learn how to control your reactions on things that are not in your control. 

No one is born perfect, no one can achieve perfection even after trying for their whole life because we are humans. We are binded with emotions and emotions keeps creating disbalance in ones life and hence the person cannot be perfect in every spheres.  So achieving complete peace  is an impossible task. But that doesn’t mean we should  stop trying. We should practice the habit of being at peace with ourselves and our surroundings and stop trying to control things in life which can never  be in our control. The only way one can achieve a calm mind, is by achieving a calm heart. Don’t let your fear, anger, mood swings affect your inner peace. Don’t let the outer world create disbalance in your inner world, in your soul..

Practice to avoid things that are not important and start focusing on things that are.. This is the simplest way to achieve peace in life.  So from now don’t associate yourself with things which are not worth to be associated with, like your bad experiences in past. Start counting your blessings and you will see how it will help you to be at peace with the person you see in the mirror every time you look into it 🙂

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Those days..

Those days, When Christmas breeze were cold 

When hot cup of coffee could be served all day long

When Celebrations could be felt in the air and sense of new year coming was eternal 

Not something to be reminded with watsapp forwards 

When you could eat gaajar ka halwa without worrying about the calories 

When  you wake up in the morning with butterflies in stomach 

So excited to eat home cooked sweets and cookies 

Not just ready made plum cakes and pastries 

When Santa was a real thing for you not just a fairy tale 

When there was no need to click selfies to feel you are enjoying 

When being at home was termed as a Happy vacation 

And roaming unnecessarily in pubs and malls around people we don’t know was not a part of celebration  

Missing those innocent days.. 

–Damini 

When She Smiles!!

It brings a ray of new hope

It brings a new change

It brings a series of good things

Happening all around

It brings light

It brings fresh air

It brings souls together again

When she smiles…

It bring Smiles on his face again..

An excerpt

The vital few and the trivial many:

Vilfredo pareto,the Italian economists discovered the 80/20 principle in 1897, which is now referred to as Pareto’s rule. He discovered that 80% of the output results from 20% of the input, 80% of consequences flow from 20% of causes, and 80% of results comes from 20%of effort. Joseph juran referred to this 20% as the vital few and the 80% as the trivial many. Sir Isaac Pitman, who invented shorthand, discovered that just 700 common words make up two- thirds of our conversation, He found that these words account for 80% of  common speech 

A student covers 80% of his syllabus in 20% of his study hours. About 20% of customers contribute of growth, profitability and satisfaction. 20 % of products and services account for 80% of the turnover, 20% of the employees generate 80% of productivity, the opinion of 20% defines the society, the output of 20% of the population defines the economy of the country.

80/20 thinking  is the secret of achieving more with less, Start celebrating exceptional productivity instead of trying to raise the average effort. Strive for excellence in a few things rather than good enough performance in many.

There is a tragic amount of waste everywhere, Almost four-fifth of everything that is happening in your life is yielding very little in return. Too  much focus is on the 80% which yields only 20%. Transform your thinking. Ra vamp your outlook. Reallocate your resources from the unproductive trivial many, to the productive vital few. Effectiveness is not about what happens to the 80%, but about how you manage, control and utilize the 20%.

20% OF YOUR TIME ACTUALLY DEFINES WHAT YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WILL BE IN LIFE.

Focus on the 20% and 80% of everything in your life will be taken care of.

source: Unposted letter

 

Closing cycles

Closing cycles
by Paulo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”�

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
HAPPY 2017